Whether you’re attending a fancy dinner party, having a business meal, or just enjoying a meal with friends, good table manners go a long way in making a positive impression. Knowing the right way to handle yourself at the table not only reflects well on you but also helps create a pleasant dining experience for everyone involved. While table etiquette might seem complicated, it’s really all about respect and consideration for those around you. Here’s a guide to basic table etiquette that everyone should know, no matter the occasion:
Wait for Everyone to Be Served Before Eating
In formal settings, it’s considered polite to wait until everyone at the table has been served before starting your meal. If you’re the host, ensure that all guests are served their meals before you begin eating. This shows courtesy and creates a sense of togetherness.
Use the Right Utensils
The most common mistake people make when dining is using the wrong utensils. Here’s a simple rule: Start from the outside and work your way in. The outermost utensils are for the first course, and you’ll continue using utensils in the order of the courses.
- Forks go on the left side of the plate, and knives go on the right.
- Soup spoons or dessert spoons are placed at the top of the plate in most settings.
- When using utensils, always hold them by the handle, not the prongs or bowl.
Keep Elbows Off the Table
While it’s perfectly acceptable to rest your forearms on the table during the meal, elbows should never be placed directly on the table. Keeping your posture upright and relaxed shows good manners and helps avoid feeling cramped in tight seating arrangements.
Chew with Your Mouth Closed
This one seems basic, but it’s essential. Chewing with your mouth closed prevents others from seeing the food inside your mouth, which can be unappealing. Also, try not to talk while chewing – take your time and savor your meal before responding to others.
Napkin Etiquette
The napkin is an essential part of your table setting. When you sit down, unfold your napkin and place it on your lap. If you need to leave the table, place your napkin on your chair to signal that you’ll be returning. When you’re finished, fold your napkin neatly and place it on the left side of your plate.
Don’t Reach Across the Table
Instead of stretching across the table to grab something, ask for it to be passed. Reaching over others can be disruptive, and it’s better to be polite and wait for someone to pass the item to you.
Make Conversation, But Avoid Sensitive Topics
At a dinner table, it’s important to engage in polite conversation. However, steer clear of sensitive or controversial topics such as politics, religion, or money. Instead, talk about mutual interests, travel experiences, or lighter subjects that everyone can enjoy. The goal is to create a friendly, inclusive atmosphere.
Cut Your Food Into Bite-Sized Pieces
In formal dining, it’s best to cut your food into smaller, manageable pieces as you eat rather than cutting everything at once. This allows you to eat gracefully and at a slower pace, without rushing or making a mess.
Don’t Talk with a Full Mouth
This one should go without saying, but it’s a common mistake. Always wait until you’ve swallowed your food before speaking. This allows for more refined conversation and shows respect for the people around you.
Be Mindful of Your Eating Speed
Try to pace your eating so you’re not finished much earlier or later than others at the table. Eating too quickly can create a rushed atmosphere, while eating too slowly can make others feel awkward. Enjoy your meal at a steady pace that aligns with the flow of the dining experience.
Don’t Use Your Phone at the Table
In a formal or social dining setting, it’s polite to avoid checking your phone or texting during the meal. Constant phone use can be distracting and impolite. If you need to take a call, excuse yourself from the table. In general, focus on the people and the meal in front of you.
Thank the Host
At the end of the meal, always thank the host for the delicious food and wonderful company. A genuine thank-you is always appreciated, and it shows good manners. If you’ve been invited to a dinner party or event, a thank-you note afterward is also a kind gesture.
Know When to Leave
In formal settings, don’t rush to leave immediately after finishing your meal. It’s polite to wait until everyone is finished eating and to continue engaging in conversation before making an exit. If you must leave early, do so politely and discreetly.
[Contributed By Anushka Gaikwad]